We all have emotions
We all have reactions to those emotions, based on our own beliefs and view of the world. They are an intrinsic part of the human experience, colouring our perceptions and influencing our decisions. From joy to sorrow, anger to contentment, our emotional palette is rich and diverse.
Some try to suppress them, others let them shine, and others work with them and thank them for sharing.
Who is right?
Everyone
Everyone works in their own way, based on their own patterns.
Everyone does the best at the time with what they know.
Even when it doesn’t look or sound right, I’m sure their intentions were true to them.
Our reactions to these emotions are as varied as the emotions themselves. These responses are deeply personal, shaped by:
- Our individual beliefs and values
- Past experiences and memories
- Cultural background and upbringing
- Current circumstances and environment
- Personal temperament and personality traits
I want to share a story about my life – don’t worry, it won’t be a lengthy saga, but it’s a tale worth telling.
It started when I was born, and I was shaped by my mother’s experiences, who was born in Holland during the WWII. Her early years were marked by the chaos and fear of Nazi-occupied Holland during World War II. Like many others, her family was forced to flee, finding refuge in Belgium where they hid in an attic – a cramped space shared by two parents, five children, and incredibly, a baby born while in hiding! The atmosphere in that attic must have been thick with stress, fear, and a cocktail of intense emotions. I can only imagine the weight of those experiences and how they melded my mother and her siblings. There’s more to this story, layers of Nazi complexity and trauma that I’m still uncovering, but that’s a tale for another day.
Needless to say, these experiences left an indelible mark on my mother. She emerged as a woman of contrasts; hard, yet still capable of, and sometimes desperate for, love. Our relationship was characterised by this push and pull dynamic, a constant ebb and flow of emotions that shaped my own understanding of love and connection. As I entered my thirties, I felt a growing urge to explore my inner landscape and challenge the beliefs I had accumulated over the years. This wasn’t my first foray into self-discovery; I had already embraced meditation and even spent months in an ashram in India, seeking to “find myself.”
But as enlightening as they were, these experiences only scratched the surface. There were deeper, more stubborn roots of “stuff” that continued to influence my behaviour, especially in my professional life with my staff and in my personal relationships with family.
For me to be my best self I wanted to clear the air.
My path to healing has been neither straight nor easy. It’s involved confronting uncomfortable truths, challenging long-held beliefs, and opening myself up to new ways of thinking and being. I’ve explored various modalities of healing and personal growth, each offering unique insights and tools. I have worked with NLP, kinesiology, needling, meditation, Access Consciousness, hypnosis and much more working on my mindset, body and energy. Many of these skills I have learned and now practice with clients.
Among all the modalities I’ve explored, energy clearing stands out as truly transformative. I discovered this practice in early 2021, and it has since become a cornerstone of my work with clients. The impact has been nothing short of amazing.
The process of healing is often likened to peeling an onion – layer upon layer must be carefully removed. My journey took time, perhaps because there was so much to process and release. But each step brought me closer to wholeness.
Recently, I faced a profound loss when my brother, only 61, succumbed to a sudden and aggressive cancer. The pain of his passing rippled through our family, affecting his children, grandchildren, and extended family. We grieved openly, sharing our raw emotions.
In this challenging time, I found myself equipped with the skills to step up, offer support, and simply be present. This ability to show up fully in the face of loss is something I’m deeply proud of – both who I am now and who I was then.
The power of energy work has been so profound that I felt compelled to share my experience. It has allowed me to shine brightly and, in turn, help others do the same. How it is has allowed me to shine, so that I can help others. I hope to inspire others who might be grappling with their own histories and traumas. It’s never too late to begin the work of healing, and the rewards – a deeper understanding of oneself, to be a better leader, have more authentic relationships, and a greater sense of peace – are immeasurable.
It helped me to see the true story of where I came from and why I did certain things. Now having the clarity and confidence from having the energy clearing it allowed me the space to heal, and to help others heal. The clarity and confidence gained through energy clearing have created space for my own healing and empowered me to facilitate healing in others.
I share my story as I know that is why I get up in the morning. Each morning, I wake up driven by the desire to help others break free from self-imposed limitations, restrictive beliefs, and the shackles of their past. I want to help others to move away from the burdens they carry, the restrictions they place upon themselves, and the beliefs that limit their decisions. As a business owner and leader, I’ve witnessed firsthand the positive impact this work can have on individuals, their businesses, and their families.
I also know it is possible to do the work. I know how it helps, I’ve seen it in my clients, and I’ve felt it myself. The work is a quick fix, it takes time, so I’ve put together a 12-week leadership program where we work on mindset and energy each week. It is powerful and transformative.
In the relation to the emotional healing, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. As I often say:
Who is right? The answer is simple: Everyone.
Each individual’s approach to emotions is valid and valuable in its own right. Our emotional strategies are deeply personal, developed through years of experience and shaped by our unique circumstances. Yet sometimes, they might not be appropriate, and that is why we need to do something to help them move through in a better way.
A Vision for Wholeness
My ultimate goal is to help others embrace their entire journey – mistakes, misjudgements, and all. I want people to love themselves wholly, recognising that they’re always doing their best with the tools they have. By providing additional tools and support, I aim to empower individuals to navigate life’s challenges with greater ease and self-compassion.
While all approaches have their place, cultivating emotional intelligence and flexibility can enhance our overall well-being. Through this work, we can all learn to be grateful for our experiences, love ourselves unconditionally, and find the wholeness that resides within each of us.
Remember, healing is not about erasing the past, but about integrating our experiences into a more whole and authentic version of ourselves. It’s a journey worth embarking on, no matter where you are in life. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to emotions. The key is finding what works best for you while remaining open to growth and new perspectives.
If this is something that resonates with you, give me a call and we talk through the best plan forward.
